Dating During Valentine’s Day: Tips from a Psychologist
Valentine’s Day can be a special time of year for some people and all you can see is “love in the air”, and couples celebrating their relationships everywhere. However, for some people in relationships and solo, this time of year can be a source of stress and anxiety. Being solo at this time of year can be a chance to celebrate the relationship with self. I hope you enjoy this article and if you want to read more you can read piece in an amazing Newcastle magazine that I’ve wrote Unlucky in Love? Dr. Ashling Doherty’s dating advice for finding romance in 2025 | High Life North | Look Good, Feel Good, Work Hard, Play Hard
The Pressure of Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is often portrayed as a day filled with roses, chocolates, and romantic dinners. This can create unrealistic expectations for couples, putting pressure on them to have the perfect date. For those who are solo or newly dating someone, this pressure can be even more intense, leading to feelings of inadequacy and loneliness.
So, how can you navigate the pressure of Valentine’s Day when it comes to dating?
- Set Realistic Expectations: Remember that Valentine’s Day is just one day out of the year. It doesn’t have to be perfect, and it’s okay to celebrate in a way that feels authentic to you and your partner.
- Communicate Openly: If you’re feeling anxious or unsure about how to approach Valentine’s Day with your partner, don’t be afraid to have an open and honest conversation. Express your concerns and listen to theirs, so you can come up with a plan together.
- Focus on Connection: Instead of getting caught up in the commercial aspects of Valentine’s Day, focus on the connection you have with your partner. Spend quality time together doing activities you both enjoy, whether it’s going for a hike, cooking a meal together, or simply cuddling on the couch.
Tips for Singles
For those who are single during Valentine’s Day, this holiday can be a reminder of their relationship status and lead to feelings of loneliness. However, being single on Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a negative experience. Here are some tips for singles navigating the holiday:
- Practice Self-Love: Take this opportunity to treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Practice self-care activities that make you feel good, whether it’s taking a long bath, going for a walk in nature, or indulging in your favourite dessert.
- Connect with Friends: Plan a fun outing with your friends or organize a Galantine’s Day celebration. Surrounding yourself with loved ones can help you feel supported and appreciated, even if you’re not in a romantic relationship.
- Stay Positive: Instead of dwelling on being single, focus on the positives in your life. Write down things you’re grateful for, set intentions for the future, and remember that your worth isn’t determined by your relationship status.
Whether you’re in a relationship or single, remember that Valentine’s Day is just one day out of the year, and it’s important to celebrate love in all its forms every day. By setting realistic expectations, focusing on connection, and practicing self-love, you can navigate Valentine’s Day!
