Christmas
Mastering emotional preparation for Christmas: Tips for clients @ our counselling Newcastle Clinic.
As I write this the Fenwick’s window in Newcastle has been unveiled and I have twinkling lights in the clinic. During many years of working in clinic it’s important to highlight that not everyone celebrates Christmas the ‘traditional way’ or even celebrates at all. There is no right or wrong in how you spend your December holidays as long as you are living life for you. An important question to consider: what traditions (if any) do you want to hold onto and what traditions no longer serve you?
Maintaining realistic expectations for the holiday season can support you in reducing emotional strain. Practising boundaries and saying no to excessive commitments can alleviate some emotional overwhelm. Saying no can be really difficult for many and ways of practicing this may include ‘I’d love to but unfortunately I’m busy until…’. Remember life is a process and you might not get it right straight away but it’s all about practice. When we are busy we may stop practicing our mindfulness and relaxation techniques, which is important all them and even more so during when Christmas when it can help manage emotional distress.
‘Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind. To cherish peace and goodwill, to be plenteous in mercy, is to have the real spirit of Christmas.’- Calvin Coolidge
For many, Christmas is a time of joy and celebration, filled with love, laughter, and cherished memories. However, it can also be a time of increased stress, anxiety, and loneliness. The pressure to meet societal expectations, such as buying gifts, hosting gatherings, and creating the perfect holiday experience, can lead to feelings of overwhelm and inadequacy. Additionally, the holiday season can bring up painful emotions and reminders of loss, particularly for those who have experienced the death of a loved one or are separated from their families.
One way the holiday season impacts emotional well-being is through increased stress levels. The demands of shopping, decorating, cooking, and attending social events can create a sense of pressure and overwhelm. Financial strain from buying gifts and the expectation of creating a picture-perfect holiday can further contribute to stress. This can lead to feelings of exhaustion, irritability, and even burnout. It is crucial to manage stress during this time by setting realistic expectations, continued prioritising of self-care, and seeking support when needed. In clinic it is busy and I find many work places get busier during this time of year.
Loneliness and social isolation are also common emotional challenges during the holiday season. While Christmas is often associated with spending time with loved ones, not everyone has a supportive network or close relationships. Social media and adverts sell a narrative that’s not always reflective of most of the population. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, sadness, and a sense of exclusion. It is important to reach out to those who may be feeling lonely and offer support and companionship. Engaging in community activities, volunteering, or joining social groups can also help combat feelings of isolation and foster a sense of connection during the holiday season. And if you are some one who wants to spend it alone without celebration then this is fine also.
The holiday season can also trigger difficult emotions and memories, particularly for those who have experienced loss or are going through challenging life circumstances. Christmas traditions and gatherings may serve as reminders of loved ones who are no longer present, leading to feelings of grief and sadness. Additionally, the pressure to be joyful and festive can feel overwhelming for individuals who are dealing with personal struggles such as illness, relationship concerns, or financial difficulties. It is important to acknowledge and validate these emotions, allowing oneself to grieve and seek support from loved ones or professionals if needed.
Lastly, the holiday season can impact emotional well-being through the comparison trap. Social media and advertisements often portray an idealised version of Christmas, creating unrealistic expectations and fostering feelings of inadequacy. Seeing others seemingly enjoying perfect holidays can lead to feelings of envy, self-doubt, and a sense of not measuring up. It is important to remember that everyone’s experience is unique, and it is okay to prioritise what brings joy and meaning to oneself rather than trying to meet external standards.
Practicing gratitude, focusing on personal values, and setting boundaries with social media can help mitigate the negative effects of comparison during the holiday season. You might be able to manage stress and anxiety during the holiday season by prioritising self-care. It’s important for individuals to take time for themselves and engage in activities that promote relaxation and well-being. This can include practicing mindfulness or meditation, engaging in physical exercise, or indulging in hobbies that bring joy and peace. By making self-care a priority, you can reduce stress levels and better cope with the demands of the holiday season.
Another effective way for clients to manage stress and anxiety during the holiday season is by setting realistic expectations. It’s common for people to feel overwhelmed by the pressure to create the perfect holiday experience. However, it’s important to remember that perfection is not attainable and that it’s okay to have imperfections. By setting realistic expectations and focusing on what truly matters, clients can alleviate stress and enjoy the holiday season with a greater sense of ease.
Practicing effective time management is also crucial for managing stress and anxiety during the holiday season. You can create a schedule or to-do list to help them stay organized and prioritise their tasks. By breaking down your responsibilities into manageable chunks, you can avoid feeling overwhelmed and reduce stress levels.
Additionally, you can learn to delegate tasks and ask for help when needed. This can help distribute the workload and alleviate stress. Maintaining healthy boundaries is another important aspect of managing stress and anxiety during the holiday season. You can learn to say no to commitments that may cause excessive stress or overwhelm. It’s important to prioritise one’s own well-being and not feel obligated to attend every event or fulfil every request. By setting boundaries and managing expectations, clients can reduce stress and create a more balanced and enjoyable holiday season. Lastly, seeking support from loved ones or professional help can greatly assist clients in managing stress and anxiety during the holiday season. Talking to a trusted friend or family member about one’s concerns and emotions can provide a sense of relief and perspective. Additionally, seeking guidance from a mental health professional can offer valuable coping strategies and support. It’s important for you to remember that you don’t have to face your stress and anxiety alone and that help is available.
It is easy to get caught up in the materialistic aspects of the holiday season, but taking time to reflect on what you are grateful for can shift your focus to the positive aspects of your life.
It’s with peace and love that I send to you during what’s seen as the most magical time yet can be sad for many.
